Both you and he know that it’s (probably) nothing too serious.So you’re able to go into the relationship a little more relaxed.I romanticized a story about an adult man kidnapping, molesting, and raping an adolescent girl.
We all know that age doesn’t always make someone who they are.He’s made it over the hump, and is doing just fine. He’s been in the labor force for the past 25 years.He’s probably had more awful bosses, terrible jobs, and career changes than you can imagine.And if, by chance, it becomes more serious organically, so be it.But at least you start the relationship without any drama or ambiguity.He introduced himself and inquired about what we did for a living.When I told him I was a writer, he became intrigued.(Um, probably don’t do this, you guys.) It wasn’t like I was stupid. But I didn’t have enough experience or wisdom (as opposed to intelligence) to completely understand what I was getting into.I thought I was totally prepared to deal with the daily realities of having a boyfriend who was older than me by a decade-plus, which turned out to be less than correct.We think they have their lives together and that they’re much more grown up than any of the dudes we see on a regular basis.And sometimes, we would be right – except, uh, the older guys who are stable in that way have their lives together enough to stay away from girls who are a lot younger than them. If someone is hanging around with people in a much younger state of life, it’s because they’re falling behind – and sometimes it’s even totally illegal.