Here was this young guy, only 21, preaching chastity, virtue and not kissing until you got married.It was a supremely conservative message packaged with youthful fervor and a fedora.This is my attempt to share some of my thoughts on “kissing dating goodbye” and “courtship” practices. If nothing else I hope to encourage people to think about the concept and decide for themselves what is most important for them in their situation.Note: Much of my criticism of the “kissing dating goodbye” approach is from the perspective of a single person in his 20’s and 30’s who was involved in churches where this approach was the norm.
Open,honest,and often humorous, this powerful media package uses drama, on-the-street interviews, personal testimonies, and segments taped before a live audience to explore relationships in Josh's incomparable way.Will You Find True Love If You Kiss Dating Goodbye?Joshua Harris builds on his highly popular conference series and bestselling book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, to give young adults God's direction as they seek a lifetime love. Jefferson City, Missouri, is a place where it's harder for a college-educated, twentysomething, professional, Christian man to find a date than it is to find a good coffeehouse or bookstore. For the last four years, I have lived in a very conservative Midwestern town of 35,000.And Starbucks and Barnes & Noble are nowhere (penned when he was only 21), has caught the attention of hordes of young women of my generation—particularly those who are evangelical Christians.In his book, Harris encourages young Christians to look beyond our Western culture's dominant paradigm for developing serial intimate relationships (namely, the process of "dating") and instead commit to "purposeful singleness." Romantic relationships, he suggests, should exist only as a means to preparing for marriage—what's commonly called "courting." Harris avoids that quaint-sounding term in , but the idea is implicit in his promotion of relationships that emphasize long-term commitment and the supervision of the community of believers over and against traditional dating, which he feels emphasizes self-centered emotional and physical satisfaction.I grew up evangelical, and one of the fads I experienced as a teenager was the 1997 evangelical bestseller .Its author was a 21-year-old kid named Joshua Harris.My blog pages elaborate on this and asks if “kissing dating goodbye” is appropriate for all ages.Temporarily “kissing dating goodbye” which could also be called postponing dating might be appropriate especially for younger teenagers.